Becoming a parent is a transformative experience. Depending on how you were brought up, your approach to raising your child may take one of two forms: you either swear not to repeat the same mistakes or unknowingly commit them again.
Today’s list is more about the latter. We’ve collected responses from a recent Reddit thread in which people shared the parenting mistakes they’ve experienced and later realized they’ve repeated with their own kids.
These replies involve giving a child the “because I said so” treatment, losing patience, and failing to show positive reinforcement, among many others. If you’re a mom or dad yourself, are you guilty of these? Let us know in the comments.
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#1
My dad was a workaholic and never got much time to spend with him. I find it hard to spend time with my kids. I’m there physically, its just hard emotionally.
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#2
Loosing my patience. Honestly, the stress of being a working parent has given me more empathy for my own.
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#3
Yelling. I hated it when I was a kid and swore I’d never do it myself.
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#4
Trying to be ‘perfect’ instead of just being present. My parents stressed over little things, and now I catch myself doing the same. Learning to let go and enjoy the moment more.
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#5
Taking their bad mood out on me (emotionally, not physically), then feeling guilty and overcompensating by being extra sweet later after calming down. That leads to a disorganized attachment style and fear of intimacy. Kids shouldn’t be subjected to such emotional volatility.
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#6
Comparing siblings to each other.
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#7
Being an overly critical perfectionist .
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#8
Too much screen time…. It’s just easy when I need some quiet time, or need to get things done without a cling on.
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#9
My 3 year old has started saying “hey!” To get my attention. I keep replying “Hay is for horses.” I always promised myself I wouldn’t do that.
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#10
Not showing genuine emotions/positive reinforcement.
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#11
Telling my kid ‘because I said so’ instead of actually explaining things. I hated it as a kid, but now I totally get why my parents did it—sometimes you just don’t have the energy to argue with a 5-year-old.
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#12
Desiring my child to be like me. Mind you, I don’t actually try to make them like me but sometimes I want them to be interested in my interests and share my passions but I know that my child is their own person. My mother consistently pushed me to try to be like her and my dad. My father, thankfully was always the reasonable one in the family and always pushed back against her when she badgered us about fitting into her “norm”. I won’t say I resented her for it because I still love her dearly but it made growing up hard because it took me forever to find out who I was and get my individuality.
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#13
Letting “five more minutes” turn into an hour.
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#14
Their mistake was HAVING children. I am making sure I don’t make that mistake.
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#15
Talking badly about myself in front of my kid. I inadvertently taught my kid to hate himself too. Recognized it by the time he was 11, but the damage was done.
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#16
Saying no without being able to explain exactly why.
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#17
Allowing my kids to see some of my anxiety. I try to keep a lid on it, because I know the reason I have it is because of how much my mother’s very open anxiety shaped mine, but it slips out here and there (broken glass is a trigger).
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#18
I (35, F) grew up without a mother. She left when I was a toddler and gave up full custody to my dad. I had a series of step mothers, but they were mostly short lived and weren’t very kind to me. I now have two daughters, and I try to act like what I imagine a mother should be. My references for behavior are from a Mish mash of friends moms and tv/movie characters. I just hope I’m doing well by them.
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#19
Being antisocial with other parents and having it limit my own kids’ social circles.
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#20
Showing love with food.
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#21
I don’t have children but I predict that I’ll be a helicopter parent.
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#22
Trusting me sometimes when they shouldn’t have.
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