70 Husbands And Boyfriends Who Were Shamed Online For Their Infuriating Habits

Annoying behavior from your partner is nothing new; we all have a habit or two that our partners might find insufferable. In fact, one poll of 2,000 people revealed that people think their partner is “the most annoying person in the world.”

While that sounds harsh, it may be the truth for many partners on this list. We’ve scoured the Internet and found the most angering examples of boyfriends and husbands acting in ways that make their partners’ blood boil. Opened cabinets, piles of undone dishes, and just general untidiness: just looking at them can make you furious!

#1 Gone For Two Weeks. My Husband Piled His Clothes By The Washer Instead Of Doing His Own Laundry

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#2 Brand New $72 Moisturizer. Husband Said He Needed Something For His Elbows

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#3 Never Letting My BF Stock The Tp Again

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The same poll where people said that their partner is the most annoying person on the planet revealed the most annoying habits people cite their partners having, too. The most common pet peeves people mentioned are snoring, passing wind, loudness, messiness, and rudeness.

The less common offenses include never listening, talking through TV shows, being bad with money, leaving crumbs on the kitchen counter, using their phone mid-conversation, and tossing their dirty clothes onto the bedroom floor. Despite that, 41% of the respondents said they secretly love these bad habits and wouldn’t have their partner any other way.

#4 My Husband Will Never Close A Draw Or Shut A Cupboard

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#5 My Boyfriend:“Don’t Put The Socks Away, I’ll Still Wear Them“

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#6 My Wife Said Measure The Door, I Told Her All Doors Are The Same Size

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According to Mary Jo Rapini, M.Ed, LPC, the bad habits our partners have aren’t the problem. We are. “Everyone has blind spots and what annoys you in others is often a reflection of yourself,” she writes. She claims that we project our controlling needs onto our partners, be it about a pristine kitchen or a clothes-free bedroom floor.

“If you’re honest with yourself, you should be able to see flaws or weaknesses within yourself,” she observes. “No one expects you to be perfect; thinking you are superior or better than others is not mentally healthy. Living a life where you see flaws in everyone but yourself will lead to a very lonely and limited life.”

#7 My Husband’s Attempt To Fold A Fitted Sheet

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#8 How My Husband Cut The Pie

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#9 I Asked My Husband To Stir My Drink, Aaaaand This Is What He Did. Thank You. Exactly What I Had In Mind

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A 2003 study suggests that men and women find different things annoying in their partners. What annoys men are things that threaten their autonomy, for example, jealousy, their partner’s moodiness, etc. For women, in turn, it’s about the behaviors that threaten the relationship: condescension, aggression, being emotionally distant, and so on.

#10 My Husband ‘Helping’ By Consolidating All Our Pasta

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#11 My Husband’s Empty Contact Cases. And The Garbage 2 Ft Away

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#12 Husbands Bedside Cup Holder

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In a previous interview for Bored Panda, clinical psychologist Forrest Talley, Ph.D., offered some advice on how to differentiate between bad habits that are just minor annoyances and those that are deal-breakers. First, consider whether your partner cares about the impact their bad habits have on you. Maybe what you’re calling an infuriating bad habit is just a personal quirk.

#13 How To Get Out Of Doing Laundry

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#14 My Partner Moves The Drain Catch Out Of The Way Before He Rinses His Cereal Bowl In The Sink. We Do Not Have A Garbage Disposal

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#15 My Husband Insisted This Chicken Was Perfectly Cooked

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Second, consider if your behavior is reasonable. Echoing what Mary Jo Rapini said about projecting your controlling tendencies, Talley, too, suggests that it may be a “you” problem. “Let’s be honest; all of us are capable of overreacting,” he told Bored Panda.

#16 My Boyfriend Dropped My Makeup Bag

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#17 The Boyfriend Left A Sharpie In His Jeans Pocket The One Time I Didn’t Check Them

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#18 How My Boyfriend Stores His Cords

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However, perhaps the most important thing to ask yourself is whether you can live with these “quirks” or “bad habits” long term. “For example, if every time he eats something, the love of your life smacks his lips loudly and slurps, can you imagine sitting across the table listening to that for years upon years?” Talley recommends asking yourself.

#19 My Husband Unnecessarily Seasoned The Stainless Steel Pans I Bought Today, Making Them Look Burnt And Like They’ve Been Used For Years

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#20 I Present To You My BF Who Eats A Block Of Cheese Whiteout Anything While Driving

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#21 Is This Grounds For Divorce? Does Anyone Else Empty The Dishwasher Like This?

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Relationships are about choosing your battles, Talley told us back then. “If the behavior appears innocent and harms nothing other than your sense of annoyance, try to let it go. No relationship is perfect, and every good relationship is packed to the brim with compromise and forgiveness.”

#22 The Way My Husband Wears Socks When He’s Relaxing

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#23 Rate My Husband’s Paint Job. “It’ll Be Fine After A Second Coat”

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#24 I Asked My BF To Freeze The Leftover Meat And This Is How He Did It

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However, that doesn’t mean that we have to completely overlook every gross and questionable habit our partners have. “Those things that annoy you today will very likely annoy you five years from now,” Talley explained. “Consider all the qualities of the person you are with and weigh this against how disruptive the annoying behavior is to your relationship. The results of this comparison will tell you whether to put energy into making changes or simply let it go.”

#25 The State My Husband Leaves Our Kitchen In

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#26 We Had 6 Sliders Left Over From Dinner Last Night, And This Is How My Fiance Stored The Leftovers

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#27 The Way My Partner Stores Produce He Already Cut Into

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The key to avoiding drama about infuriating habits is in the ability to listen and empathize with your partner, whether you’re the offender or the annoyed one. The Gottman Institute, for example, found that 81% of men who don’t listen to their partners are more likely to have their relationship end. 

#28 I Bought A Spoon With A Built In Rest That Keeps The End Up Because My BF Always Makes A Mess With Them. This Is How He’s Left It

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#29 The Way My Boyfriend Eats Pizza

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#30 My Mom’s Boyfriend Threw Away My 9 Year Old Collection Of LEGO Just Because I Hadn’t Played With It In A While. There Are Sets From The 1990s In There And Also Sets In The Harry Potter Series

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So, Pandas, how furious are you after scrolling through this list? Have you got any annoying and infuriating habits of your partner to share with us? Feel free to go off in the comments. And if you want to see more moments that made people rethink their relationships, head over here and here!

#31 BF Put An Empty Box Of Double-Stuffed Oreos Back In The Pantry

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#32 Husband Leaves His Dirty Clothes And Boots On Just Changed Sheets

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#33 I Was Feeling Unwell, So My Partner Decided To Surprise Me With Homemade “Sushi”

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#34 I Left My Husband Alone For 5 Minutes While Painting

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#35 The Way My BF Opened A Pack Of Clorox Wipes

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#36 And *this * Is Why I Can’t Trust My Husband To Put A Load Of Washing Going

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#37 So I Just Learned That Apparently This Is How My Husband Eats A Sandwich?! Thanks In Advance For Your Thoughts And Prayers For Our Family During This Difficult Time.

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#38 My Boyfriend Told Me This Was Just The Top Of His Canoe When He Was On His Trip This Weekend

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#39 Are These Really Still Ok?

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#40 The Way My BF Makes His Tea

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#41 I Made Brownies. My Fiance Wanted To Irritate Me

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#42 My Husband Wanted A Bagel, Apparently

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#43 Fiancé Regularly Leaves Dirty Clothes Directly Next To The Hamper

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#44 My Husband Left A Bag Of Gummy Bears In A Hot Car. I Give You…gummy Bear Turkish Delight

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#45 My Boyfriend Going To My Female Friend’s Place Multiple Times A Week Despite Him Claiming He’s “At Work”

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#46 Where The Toilet Paper Goes vs. Where My Husband Chose To Put It

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#47 My Husband’s Eggs That He Made In The Microwave

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#48 Who Does This To The Cream Cheese?

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#49 Imo There’s Too Much “Waste” When My BF Cuts His Strawberries

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#50 I’m Grateful To My Husband For Cooking Dumplings For Me When I’m Tired, But… I Usually Add 2-4 Bay Leaves, He Adds 24-∞

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#51 My Husband Refuses To Replace It

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#52 How My Husband “Opens” Spices

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#53 Husband Thinks He’s Funny

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#54 My BF Offered Me Half His Banana

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#55 The Way My BF Holds His Glass

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#56 I Hate My BF

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#57 My Boyfriend Left A Smushed Up Soap Bar And A Leaf In The Drain After Taking A Shower

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#58 My Over 6 Ft BF Never Lowering The Showerhead For Me 4’11

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#59 This Is How My Fiancé Set Up The TV

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#60 My Husband Says “I Help You At Home”. The Help At Home:

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#61 Hubby Is Letting Our Neighbor Use Our Oven…

I’m good w him borrowing the oven but thought maybe since he was cooking several things, he would use our oven for one of his less messy items. Like, something inside a pan or dish or…

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#62 How Boyfriend Has Been Eating This Brownie

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#63 Are You Kidding Me? You Drove It Last Night, Even Came Back Home To Get The Gas Can For Someone That Had Ran Out Of Gas And This Is How You Leave My Car? Glad I Didn’t Go Into Labor Over Night. It’s A Good Thing I Love You

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#64 By Boyfriend Broke The Stove Top With A Cast-Iron Pan

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#65 This Is How My Boyfriend Carries Shopping Bags

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#66 I Hate When My Husband Opens The Non-Resealable Side Of The Tortillas And Puts Them In The Refrig To Harden

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#67 The Way My Fiancé Puts Away Cereal Boxes

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#68 My Husband Swears He Doesn’t Hog The Covers And Says I Framed Him Last Night

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#69 How My Boyfriend Drinks A Capri Sun

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#70 How My Partner Stacks The Dishes To Dry

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