The modern world can get pretty hectic, with constant reminders, notifications, breaking news, and just the day-to-day hustle and bustle of life. In all this chaos, it can be easy to forget about just speaking to your loved ones.
So one man got in some hot water when his wife discovered that he used calendar reminders to make sure to ask her about her day. As a self-described “self-centered person,” he thought it was the best way to make her feel like he was involved and concerned about her. Netizens debated the pros and cons of this strategy in the comments section.
On a hectic day, it can be easy to forget to ask your partner how they are doing
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A husband had a sneaky method to make his wife feel cared about, he would set reminders about her day in his calendar
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The way memories are formed differs from person to person
OP is right to mention that not everyone necessarily remembers some of the social norms we think are vital. He deems it being self-centered, but the truth is that people have different sorts of memories. Some people struggle to exit “work mode” even when off the clock, so they forget important details about loved ones, or, perhaps in OP’s case, these details are moved to the “unimportant” category. It takes a lot of training to change how we formulate memories, and OP is simply using the power of technology to help himself get ahead.
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There are multiple theories and causes behind why we forget things, even if they are relatively important. For example, leading theories about short-term memory indicate that unless the person consciously repeats or recollects the information, it’s lost after about thirty seconds. While we do not know exactly how OP processes information, it is possible that all these smaller details would have gone right over his head the moment his wife mentioned them. The process of him actually setting a reminder already might help him remember without any notifications.
There are a variety of tricks you can use to remember things
Another common reason we forget is because we don’t manage cues properly. If you have ever learned a second language, you are probably familiar with creating associations. You take something a new word reminds you of, and use it to help memorize it. When we don’t have a good “cue”, our brain often struggles to recall the information. It’s not gone, it’s just buried.
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This does seem applicable to OP’s case, as it’s not like he has completely forgotten about the life events his wife is telling him about. Rather, in the stream of information he is no doubt processing every single day, it’s not “encoded” in such a way that he will remember it at the correct time. Setting a reminder isn’t exactly a cue, but it does the same thing, “pushing” some piece of information to the forefront of the brain when we need it.
While it’s easy to see why the wife might be a bit disappointed, in the long run, the husband’s strategy makes a lot of sense. After all, a boss doesn’t think you are a worse worker because you have notifications set on your Google calendar, rather, it actually makes you more conscientious. Let’s face it, the modern world has so much information flowing through it, our lives can get very, very hectic and busy, so there is no harm in trying to use technology to actually make yourself more productive.
OP shared what his reminders look like
Most readers didn’t think he had done anything wrong
A few thought both sides had solid arguments and neither were jerks
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