Being on the same page when it comes to anything from politics to life goals, from finances to intimacy is crucial for making your relationship work. The same, however, applies to having children. And if there’s a sudden change of heart in this department, it can be a cause for some serious turbulence.
As u/aita-frazzledfiance shared in his story, everything matched except for one significant event: the fiancée’s perspective on becoming a mother shifted after a tragic accident that left her niece and nephew orphaned. Not wanting to be a heartless monster for refusing to take in the grieving kids under his roof but also not wanting his life changed because of the sudden turn of events, the author, feeling stuck between a rock and a hard place, turned to the Am I The [Jerk] community for additional perspective on the matter.
After an unexpected turn of events, a person had to choose between becoming a parent against his will or sabotaging his current relationship
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If you’ve ever been in a committed, all-possible-strings-attached relationship, you must know that one of the most important ingredients is a handy little word called “compromise.” Whether it’s a split decision between prioritizing Oppenheimer or Barbie on its opening night, or choosing between Indian and Italian for dinner, it’s only inevitable that sometimes you’ll have to compromise in order for things to have its “forever after…”
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Of course, these are all trivial things that don’t mean that much in the long run. A bruised ego, at most. And when you’re in that blissful stage of romantic discovery à la honeymoon phase, boy, you could swear that you’ll do anything it takes for you to be together. Even if means following your soulmate into uncharted waters or abandoning your dream job.
Speaking about relationship compromises, Statista Research Department published a fascinating study on the subject matter. According to its findings, among American men and women, 24% of respondents stated that they would be willing to leave their profession for their love, with converting to their partner’s religion or forgetting about their friends and families following behind with 10% and 11% respectively. Still, the majority of respondents (32%) said they’d move abroad if it was necessary.
The OP gave extra details in the comments
Most people thought that no one should be judged for doing something what’s in their best interest
Some, meanwhile, sided with the OP for standing his ground
However, some people didn’t shy away from pointing out how apathetic his decision is
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